This month I received the following reader’s question,
Hello Lisanne, in one of your essays you wrote about the willingness to write poor things first, and the importance of that when it comes to writing. What is your personal take on failure?
In Man’s Search for Meaning, psychiatrist Victor Frankl writes that life holds a potential meaning under any conditions, even the most miserable ones. If that is true, then there is no such thing as failure. Then failure is just that thing, trying to move you in another direction. I guess there are two ways to look at failure. Failure often causes us negative emotions, which makes us want to forget it as fast as possible, which is completely legitimate. On the other hand, the experience is also there because we are supposed to do something. Mistakes can teach us what not to do, and force us to come up with better ideas.
So, we can take steps to ensure mistakes don’t happen again, but we could also see them as opportunities to improve our lives. I prefer to see failure as a brilliant thing, because it forces me to look at the most hurtful mistake as something that can learn me something valuable. Also, our lives are bigger than one experience, and the mistakes that we make actually have taken us to where we are right now. Things don’t have to be perfect, but it’s the progression we should strive for. Just keep moving!
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