The Choice

The Choice Summary

In May 1944, Edith Elefánt was sixteen, training as a ballerina and gymnast in Kassa, when she and her family were deported to Auschwitz. Her parents were killed on arrival. She and her sister Magda survived the camp, a transfer to Mauthausen and a death march to Gunskirchen, where an American soldier found her in a pile of bodies because he saw her hand move. She weighed 32 kilos and had a broken back.

The Choice is the book she wrote about that, seventy years later — but only about a third of it is the camp. The rest is what came after: the marriage, the emigration, the decades of not talking about it, the panic attacks, the doctorate in clinical psychology she finished in 1978 at the age of fifty, and the patients she then treated. Soldiers with PTSD. Abused women. People whose suffering looked nothing like hers and whom she refused to rank against it.

The argument running through it is in the title. Eger does not claim you can choose what happens to you. She claims that what you do with it afterward is the one thing nobody can take, and that she spent most of her life failing to act on that before she managed it. The book is at its best when she is honest about the failing.

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The Choice Genre: Memoir.

Themes: Survival, Trauma, Freedom.

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‘She Refuses to Rank Suffering, Including Her Own’

— The line I keep coming back to: there is no hierarchy of pain. She means it clinically, and it changes how you read the rest.

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  • The Choice: Embrace the Possible is Edith Eger’s 2017 memoir. It covers three things at once: her deportation to Auschwitz at sixteen and the months that followed, the decades afterward in which she did not speak about it, and her later career as a clinical psychologist treating trauma. The through-line is her argument that suffering is not something you choose, but your response to it is — and that she herself took most of her life to act on that.

  • Yes. It is a memoir, not a novel. Eger was born Edith Elefánt in Košice in 1927, was deported in May 1944, survived Auschwitz, Mauthausen and a death march to Gunskirchen, and was found alive among the dead by an American soldier in May 1945. The clinical cases in the later chapters are drawn from her own practice, with patients’ identities changed.

  • Edith Eva Eger (1927–2026) was a Hungarian-born Jewish psychologist and author. She survived Auschwitz as a teenager, emigrated to the United States, earned her PhD in clinical psychology from the University of Texas at El Paso in 1978, and ran a practice in La Jolla, California, specialising in post-traumatic stress. She wrote three books and died in San Diego on 27 April 2026, aged 98.

  • She arrived in May 1944 with her parents and her sister Magda. Josef Mengele separated her from her mother on the ramp; her mother was killed that day, as was her father. Mengele later ordered Eger to dance for him, and she has described dancing with her eyes closed, imagining a stage. She and Magda stayed together through the camp, a transfer to Mauthausen and a death march to Gunskirchen. Her fiancé Eric did not survive. Her sisters Klara and Magda did.

  • Not the choice of what happens to you. Eger is explicit that she had no choice about the camp, and she is hostile to any reading that makes survival a matter of willpower. What she means is narrower and harder: the response is yours, it is available at any point, and postponing it is itself a choice. She spent roughly forty years postponing it, which is why the book spends so long on the years after the war rather than the year inside it.

  • It is both, and that is the honest answer rather than a dodge. Roughly the first third is memoir; the rest moves between her own recovery and her patients’ cases, with the structure of a clinical argument. Readers who want only testimony sometimes find the therapeutic chapters intrusive; readers who come for the psychology sometimes underestimate how unsparing the camp chapters are. It helps to know that before you start.

  • Readers who want an account of recovery that does not skip the part where it fails. It is useful for anyone carrying something they have decided not to look at, and for anyone interested in how trauma is actually treated rather than how it is talked about. It is not a gentle book and it is not a fast one.

  • The camp chapters are hard, though Eger is restrained rather than graphic — she reports what happened without lingering. The harder parts for many readers are the later ones, where she describes years of panic, avoidance and self-deception in a marriage and a life that looked fine from outside. Take it slowly. It is not a book that rewards finishing quickly.

  • Eger knew Viktor Frankl’s work, corresponded with him and has named him as an influence, and the two books share a core claim: that meaning is available even in extremity. The differences matter, though. Frankl writes as a psychiatrist looking outward at other prisoners; Eger writes as a patient who became a psychiatrist’s counterpart forty years later. Frankl’s book is short and argumentative. Eger’s is long, personal and much more willing to show the author getting it wrong.

  • The Choice (2017) is the memoir. The Gift: 12 Lessons to Save Your Life (2020) is the practical follow-up — shorter, organised around twelve patterns she calls mental prisons, built from her clinical work rather than her biography. Read The Choice first; The Gift assumes you know where she is speaking from.

  • The Ballerina of Auschwitz (2024) is Eger’s third book, a young-adult retelling of the same story for a younger readership. It covers the deportation and the camp with the memoir’s material reshaped as a narrative. If you are buying for a teenager, that is the edition to look for rather than The Choice.

  • She married Béla Eger in 1945, was imprisoned briefly under the communist government in Czechoslovakia, and emigrated with her family to the United States, settling first in Baltimore and later in Texas. She worked in a factory. She began studying in her forties, finished her doctorate in clinical psychology in 1978, and built a practice in La Jolla treating veterans, abuse survivors and families. She also worked with the US military on post-traumatic stress.

  • No. Edith Eger died on 27 April 2026 in San Diego, California, at the age of 98. She had continued speaking and writing into her nineties; her last book, The Ballerina of Auschwitz, appeared in 2024.

  • The Scribner edition runs to 304 pages (ISBN 978-1501130786). UK editions from Rider and Ebury run slightly shorter. There is also an audiobook, and the young-adult retelling, The Ballerina of Auschwitz, is shorter again.


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Why it's similar:

  • both are written by camp survivors who became clinicians and treated other people's trauma
  • both argue that the response to suffering is the one thing that stays yours
  • both refuse to make survival a matter of character or willpower

Best for:

  • readers who want testimony and psychology in the same book rather than separately
  • readers who are wary of anything that sounds like a lesson drawn from atrocity
  • readers coming to Holocaust literature for the first time and wanting a way in

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