Reader question #1: 3 pieces of advice I would give my younger self

This month I received the following readers’ question, if you could give 3 pieces of advice to your younger self what would they be?

Here is a roundup of some of the pieces that came to mind:

1. Know when to listen to other people, but also be a little deaf sometimes.
   In my experience people like to give advices. Especially when they like you and care about you. However, most of our experiences are unique. What has worked for me, does not have to work for you. If I had listened to the naysayers I crossed paths with in my life and allowed them to project their fears on me, I wouldn’t be here today. So know when to listen, and try to be a little deaf to others sometimes.
2. Spend your time to things and people that lift you up, inspire you, or give you positive vibes.
   Our time and attention are our most valuable assets in life. Be mindful to what kind of things or people you spend your time to. If you want to find some meaning in what you are doing, then put the way you like to spend your time first. There are many occupations or careers that may look great from the outside and sound great as well, but it’s worth nothing if in the end of the day you don’t like to spend your hours doing that. So give yourself some space to figure things out. Energy flows where attention goes. So great things can happen.
3. Change what you can control, and let go of what you can’t.
   It’s a simple one, but not always easy to live by. Yet, when we continue working on things that we can actually change, odds are that life will work out the way you want it more often than not.

Thank you for reading. This reader’s question is part of the Ask Me Anything series. Want to ask me a question for next month? Send me yours [email protected]