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Books Written by Amanda Palmer

Palmer’s book grew directly out of a viral TED talk, but its real subject runs deeper than crowdfunding: why asking for help — as a musician, a friend, a spouse — is one of the hardest things people do, and what changes when you do it anyway. A former street performer and Dresden Dolls frontwoman who pioneered fan-funded music, she turned her own comfort with radical openness into a memoir about the discomfort most people still carry around needing anyone at all.

By Lisanne Swart · 1 book · Memoir · Updated September 2026


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Amanda Palmer on The Art of Asking

Palmer discusses crowdfunding, vulnerability, and the memoir that grew out of her viral TED talk, at Talks at Google.

Quick facts

Born
1976
Known for
Musician, Dresden Dolls; crowdfunding pioneer
TED talk
The Art of Asking (2013), millions of views
Books published
1
Debut book
The Art of Asking (2014)
Spouse
Author Neil Gaiman
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The Art of Asking: How I Learned to Stop Worrying and Let People Help

Amanda Palmer · 2014

Growing out of her widely watched TED talk, Palmer’s memoir traces her path from performing as a living statue on the streets of Boston to fronting the band the Dresden Dolls to running the most successful music Kickstarter of its time, using each stage to examine why asking for help is so difficult and what happens when you do it anyway — as an artist, a friend, and a wife to author Neil Gaiman.

The book expands well past the TED talk’s argument about crowdfunding into something more personal: Palmer is candid about the criticism she’s faced for asking so openly, and about the specific things — illness, grief, intimacy — she found she still couldn’t ask for. It works as both a memoir of an unconventional music career and a genuine meditation on vulnerability.

Frequently asked questions about Amanda Palmer’s books

How many books has Amanda Palmer written?
Amanda Palmer has written one book: The Art of Asking: How I Learned to Stop Worrying and Let People Help (2014), a memoir with a foreword by Brené Brown.
Is The Art of Asking based on a TED talk?
Yes. Palmer’s 2013 TED talk of the same name, about her Kickstarter-funded music career and her philosophy of asking fans for direct support, went viral and became one of the most-discussed talks of that year’s conference. The book expands considerably on the talk’s argument and adds much more of her personal story.
Is The Art of Asking mainly about music?
Music is the backdrop, but the book’s real subject is vulnerability — why people find it so hard to ask for help, and what changes when they do it anyway. Palmer uses episodes from her career (street performance, crowdfunding, touring) alongside more personal material about her marriage and friendships.
What is Amanda Palmer known for besides writing?
Palmer is primarily known as a musician: she was the lead singer and pianist of the punk cabaret band the Dresden Dolls before going solo, and she pioneered direct fan-funded music releases, including a Kickstarter campaign that raised over $1.2 million. She is married to author Neil Gaiman.

From the bookshelf

“We can only connect the dots that we collect, and I have been collecting weird, colorful dots for as long as I can remember.”

— Amanda Palmer, The Art of Asking

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